Seeing is not enough. Start looking.
If you were asked to draw the palm of your hand on a piece of paper without looking at your hand, would you be able to draw it accurately? Do you remember the lines, the crease, the length of your fingers or how the width of each finger is different? Do you know if your left hand is broader than your right hand?
You see and use your hands everyday but have you really looked at it?
If hands were just a metaphor of your life and every line and crease (that makes your hand unique) were the events that made you unique, did you just pass by life? Or did you stop and observe it? The people, place, situation.
Some events from the past are charged with emotions that do not easily pass. You just cannot look at it because of how intimidating or hurtful it may have been. Sometimes you know why it happened and sometimes you just don’t. Either ways, what is really important is that you overcome it.
Overcoming starts with creating the space to allow for new constructs to come in by taking the time to look at those intimidating ones with “the intention to resolve how you feel about it”. Either you can decide to be greater than the event and overcome it or you can deconstruct it into tiny pieces so that it can be chipped away little by little OR combine the two strategies. It is necessary to ask and seek for help if you do not know where to start. The right help can just come from anywhere — people, place, tools (like energy science) or new situations.
Some people, like Amikaeyla Gaston, who’s video is shared below can really go beyond the event/s of their life and be the bigger person and overcome what life threw at them. She is a great example of how you can remind yourself of who you truly are and emerge out into a new life.
Dare to be dauntless! | Amikaeyla Gaston | TEDxGramercy — YouTube
And then there are the others for whom starting small, one small piece at a time, is what works. Starting one finger at a time, metaphorically speaking.
The important thing is to look at it, acknowledge it and not ignore it (ever!). Start the emotional healing process. You will eventually get to a place where you can look at it at close-up and realize the significance of it once the emotions attached to the event has been diffused. It will bring peace and courage even if the problem is not resolved but the emotions that surrounded the problem is resolved. You will stop looking at it like it is a battle.
Each time you overcome, the situation deconstructs by itself giving way to new constructs.
Not taking the steps to overcome makes you bitter, separated, fearful and keep you in hiding. That's why, seek and take those tiny or big steps with intention and purpose to overcome it. Personally, I use tapping therapy everyday and it has taken me leaps ahead, resolving both the conscious and sub-conscious patterns. When I say resolve, what I mean is that it helps diffuse the emotions of something that is bothering me and helps me see things clearly. It gives me the courage to take the next step. Eg. have that difficult conversation which was overdue, or make a plan to get me to the next level etc. What is important is to find out what works for you.
This is a sacred, inner work which only you can do. It’s yours and only yours to resolve. Do it with reverence and intention.
